Posted: 2017-12-07 14:29
On another relatively similar note, I believe our existance-life-equation is actually quite balanced, regardless of all the drama, doom and gloom crap I see, read and hear. "People do not know what they do", wow, how true. I find quite interesting to ponder the needs we all have. This leads me to believe all things are perfect, from a cause and effect perspective, and it helps me to justify why things are they way they are and this is very comforting. I believe things are the way they are, because they have to be, otherwise they wouldn''t be. I believe we are all equally important and all are required, even the perceivable ''crap of society''. With out them, we would be out of balance. I''m regularly impressed with how our physical laws apply to seemingly everything and I try to understand the ''net force'' for all things. Nothing happens without force and it''s a bit of a trigger for me when I hear someone try to convince me that something they said or did was for no apparent reason. I immediately think, “nothing is without reason, nothing happens without force”. And the ever-ongoing follow up question of ''Why?'' presents itself. Why are you trying to convince me of this? Why? Why? Etc.
I often push people away from me for various reasons. However, when I analyze this as a problem in a system, I''m quite amazed on how non-random all events are and how I maybe missing the luster of life when I push people away. The unimaginable number of required events in history combined with an unfathomable duration of time required for any given moment in my (our/all) day is infinitely impressive. Everything that has ever happened was required to allow you to read my ramblings. I try to think about this when someone doesn''t quite fit in my life, which is quite often. We as a species are possibly very immature and have only scratched the surface of a very small scratch on the surface of a very small scratch on the surface of the unknown. I can easily imagine our understanding of anything is really an illusion, we understand pretty much nothing, we only compare. Up to any point in life regardless to how meaningless is appears, I like to reflect and realize that this moment is what everything that has ever happened in the past has lead to, thus far.
Would love to connect. I am also a woman INTJ. I have a past in corporate marketing/ digital marketing. I also have my own small business health coaching. And working on going back to school for human systems engineering, which is largely about computer engineering and psychology. Plus, I''m a video game nerd. I literally felt like the only female INTJ left in the world until I saw your comments. Haha Only a handful of us out there. Let''s get to know each other! :)
To the one that was unsure, if you want more clarity, focus on and learn more about cognitive funtion usage and priorities, and take a look at the functional stacks for each type. Try taking the individual tests too, like one for usage of Te or Ti, another for Se or Si, etc, etc. Keep in mind, once you find your functional stack, researching the MBTI that''s correlated to it won''t always match up to par with your personality because the whole of your mind cannot be reduced to a simple four letters on a web page. :)
Happiness is relative it has a variable span, determined by the minimum and maximum happiness previously experienced, specific to the person. Sometimes it really is the small things that make the biggest improvements in someone’s life.
Life and all things are relative, infinite and nothing is random. In legal terms, those reading this now have ‘willful knowledge’ of my perspective. Do with it what you may, whether I am right or wrong, you now know a fraction of my perspective.
Ah but we know that religion is the very reason, that reason in most is so stunted especially here in the good ole USA. What and who is more scary is the new game we''re tacitly on board to play. That merely annoys me..where''s the allegiance to honest action? Acting honestly on my thoughts has changed me from a potential mental case with too many unrealized potentialities thats what we have probability and computers for!
I get what you are saying but for me what I feel the largest problem with being an INTJ is thinking. I think a larger amount than anyone else I know. I spend all my time processing what I think and it''s most likely outcome. I can''t understand others as well as some do so I process in order to look as though I do when for some people it is just natural. I understand what you are saying but if I were you I''d ignore them. If you are truly and INTJ you don''t waste your time so in your free time, and everyone has some, use it to surpass them. When you get high enough all below won''t be able to influence you at all. Work as hard as you possibly can now so you won''t in the future.
I rarely share my true "great truth" ideas with others too. They''d probably just stare at me mouth agape and I would have to spend the remainder of the day explaining why I''m not a nutter and it really is all very logical and correct. The truth, as I''ve come to realize it, is so very very obvious. I literally cannot understand why others behave the way they do. An individual must intimately understand their own motivations, why do you lie? Cheat? Steal? Hurt those you supposedly love? Do you want to be that person for the rest of your life? We are not animals, not for several millennia anyway, stop behaving as though you are. Logic cannot survive in chaos, eliminate fractured thought and ill motivation from yourself. It may sound a bit dogmatic but religion has nothing to do with it.
I agree. Knowledge of the various types has changed my life as well. Personality Types was (one of) the missing puzzle piece(s) I''ve been looking for. Additionally, there is some debate on whether or not personalities are developed or if it is something we are all born with. I believe the latter. If personalities could be changed or edited, the world would be out of balance. Understanding personalities is especially valuable for me in understanding why people behave the way they do especially with the knowledge of and acceptance that most won''t understand me. This is okay this is not his or her choice or mine and I don''t need everyone to understand me. With best intentions in mind, I am learning what and when something should be shared and with who and most importantly who not to share with. Some people are not capable of understanding and I do not mean this in a negative way. Due to the fact that ‘others’ actually can''t understand I feel the reasoning for the lack of understanding is really not relevant. What is relevant is I know my role, whether others understand or not, and continue to edit the world around me, to my liking.
It is important to note that any personality type can be successful in any occupation. However, some occupations are well suited to the natural talents and preferred work style of the INTJ, while other occupations demand modes of thinking and behavior that do not come as naturally to this type. Occupations that require the Mastermind to operate outside their natural preferences may prove stressful or draining, and often sound unappealing to INTJs who are choosing a career.
Interesting thoughts. If I can expound personalities can be edited to a degree. For instance, my earliest personality quizzes placed me as an introvert, but I''ve developed my extroversion capabilities to the point that quizzes are no longer can consistently place me in one group or another. I still feel as though I''m an introvert, but I must also acknowledge that my personality is now also competently social. Myers Brigg presents percentages of each quality, (exe 56% introvert, 99% extrovert). When I took the Myers Brigg earlier in my life my percentages were broader, now they are all within a few points of the middle because I chose to work on balancing my personality. I think with conciousness and the desire we can all change, but people seldom have either (for better or worse).
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I know what you mean. Im female INTJ and I have two female friends, only because our moms were friends when we were tiny. All my friends are guys, and all getting or are married, and some wives dont like their man around a woman even if shes a friend. Llloooonnneelllyy...I so Llloonneelyy.. and I grew up with lots of brothers. Dont even know what to say to other women :/ not that i find them interesting anyway haha.
SO yea, I feel you. Lesbians like me ok tho.
With this, now I can appreciate the lives some (all) people are required to live. I feel as if I should thank them, for playing the card they were dealt, because I''m happy I don''t have to, but more importantly so my kids don''t have to. All people contribute equally to the required net force of life. I remind my kids and myself of this nearly each time we pass a homeless person begging for money. Historically, I almost never give, but now feel I should. I’m not contributing to their problems. I want to make their live easier, because I get to live a great life of abundance and I realize I can improve theirs in their perspective, which is most important to them, regardless of my opinion of how I /we / others think they should live. Drink on, my people be happy, if you think it’s best. This is what we all do and have in common. I need to admit that I am not much different and perfectly capable of making wrong choices that can lead me to undesirable places in life. For now, I learn from everyone around me and say my thanks for setting an example of how not to live for anyone who will look their way.
One may understand one''s motivations (or think they do I rather suspect that amounts to the same thing) but we cannot know what we do to other people. Nobody understands every possible consequence of any decision and the probabilities thereof. We also do not know how other people are going to feel/react to those consequences. Sure, I might statistically "know" the probability of something happening, but how do I know how a given policy decision is going to impact the life of a housewife in Devon, whose family I have never met? I am also in the healthcare industry, and have yet to encounter anything I can see as black and white. (Then again, I am a - female - INTP, and I''m told we specialise in shades of grey.)
Often times I wonder if its odd, or wrong even to express my thoughts in a group. Mostly I get the ''oh here comes boss lady'' look from people in the room. Some people who love to conform to norms, end up finding divisive ways to hit back at me because I think differently. I''m good with it though coz we''re all different. I know they will go about it the wrong way and get back to the drawing board and eventually listen to reason (or best yet, chicken out). A disappointing waste of time, but yes mistakes are good teachers and we all make them.
On the topic of wealth, it is fascinating to me to realize how insignificant most things are. Wealth seems to be, understandably, a worldwide goal common amongst the population, but it seems to be imaginary and potentially created to provide a net force for society to strive or improve (or be controlled). In reality life has nothing to do with money and possessions and statuses and so one. Wealth is entirely to do with life''s experiences and emotions, even for us robots. At any given moment, the richest person in the world may quite possibly be a child sharing an actual dirt/mud pie, made by his/her mother, with a sibling. In that moment, this person may have several ‘real’ problems in their lives'' that seem imaginable to cope with, but I believe it is a possible that no one at that moment may be any richer.
I agree with you that I can''t understand why some people spend so much energy justifying their decisions. It seems to me that the intentions behind things do not matter very much, at least not in influencing the outcome. Perhaps the only reason people do it is for their own peace of mind. It certainly doesn''t appear to be a very efficient or meaningful thing to do. Well, unless you''re in mortal fear of being sued, in which case we''re told it is in our best interests to "justify" almost everything!
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