Posted: 2017-12-06 20:31
I 8767 ll be honest: I 8767 m not surprised. America 8767 s a big country and we 8767 re getting bigger. According to the Center for Disease Control , 69% of adults 75 years old and over are overweight and 85% are considered obese. And yet even when the number of people who are considered overweight form the majority of the population, obesity is in many ways one of the remaining acceptable prejudices. Last week, the #fatshamingweek hastag was trending on Twitter as numerous assholes and shitbags 6 took to the network and decided to mock fat people mostly women, but men too from behind the dubious anonymity of their Twitter accounts.
The best way to develop presence is to be present. OK, before you click the back button in disgust, hear me out. Most of us rarely give our full focus to somebody. We inevitably find our focus divided among the million little things that occupy our attention. But when we feel like someone is giving us their full, undivided attention it 8767 s amazing. They make us feel special. One of the reasons why Tom Cruise is so ridiculously charismatic is because he can make anyone feel like they 8767 re the most fascinating person in the world. Simply connecting with them strong (but not intimidating) eye contact, open and relaxed body language, and actively listening instead of waiting for your turn to talk is absurdly powerful. When you can build presence, women won 8767 t remember you as that short man at the party. They 8767 ll remember you as that incredibly charming guy who made them feel like he got them in a way nobody else did.
I m not exactly sure what the point that you re trying to make is anymore you realize that these people, for the most part, had to display some sort of talent in order to get to the point that they had teams to work for the, right? Once they have them, do those teams help? Sure. But they had to get to that point somehow, and in order to do that, they need to be showing some kind of unique ability, whether that s a certain type of acting, comedy, whatever.
Finding a match on an online dating site takes a lot of work, especially since most sites today are overrun by scammers. That said, for most people who are no longer in school, they are probably still the best ''focused and pro-active'' option. Yes, you are likely to be disappointed, to be hurt along the way, but then I suspect that even though you were married before you left school, you still had your heart broken once or twice before you met your wife. And yes, it is possible to meet people in church, at meet-ups and other special interest activities. However, a good many people you will meet in any of those places have no interest in finding a new partner.
I actually rather disagree with this. I think with a larger pool, you re just going to find more people who could give a rat s ass about height. I haven t found many men interested in me (a heavier woman) in real life or at least, not many who will approach me, which may be due to having their friends around, societal pressure, etc. But I ve been approached but many more online, because all of that stuff goes away. And while I ve gotten boring messages, overtly sexual messages, copypasta messages, and messages that make no sense, I usually don t get messages right off the bat that insult my appearance/weight maybe this is just because I portray myself as a complete goofball? (Of course, if I say thanks but no thanks , then the ur so fat n stupd n uglee comments come out)
Also, I think any girl that is reasonably good looking and serious about finding someone won''t be a on a dating site very long - either it will prove too much for them and they''ll quit or they''ll find someone quickly. I''m always wary of the good looking girls that hang out on these sites long term. If you read their profiles they''ll normally have a laundry list of "must haves" that just screams high maintenance OR they won''t bother with any content at all and let their photos do all the work. These girls have let the massive amount of choice they get from online dating go to their head and most seem obsessed with finding the perfect guy. It wouldn''t surprise me if they end up getting used a lot by guys telling them everything they want to hear and then dumping them once they get them into bed. Funnily enough it doesn''t seem to occur to them that maybe they are looking for the wrong things.
This blog also made me think about the rejections by tall girls, and it angered me, but not at the time the rejection. Only years later, when I actually tallied them up, did I get angry. I was rejected not because I was fat, bald, ugly, deformed or had a rotten personality. No. The reason I was rejected by all of these women was my height. Not a one even bothered to put forth the effort to get to know me much less date me.
However it''s the same for me dudes, if you are tall nowadays you''re not creepy and slimy, you''re creepy and threatening. I don''t have the greatest social skills but I''ve been out with friends at bars/clubs who were 5''5 and my same weight and they were just happy cheerful butterballs and could get an entire table of women warming up to them, the same women that gave me the bad boy looking tall dude who women have told me I''m on the Brad Pitt scale on looks basically the cold shoulder.
Yeah..when I was online dating, I messaged quite a few men. SEVERAL. All at a similar level of attractiveness to myself. Not a single one replied. And in case you''re wondering, my photos were quite nice, and my profile was thoughtful and grammatically correct. All the guys online sift through looking for the "hot girls" and don''t give a crap about anything else -- and then whine that online dating is so hard.
Both sides have their rights and wrongs. I always liked meeting people in Internet. I always thought (and I still do) that dating websites are a great idea. I always protect dating websites because of a simple reason - it''s a public place where real people are showing themselves. You found creepy people on dating websites? Sure, but you know that they also exist in real life and you could meet them on a classic date, right?
Dirty Harry took its name from the fact that its unorthodox title character, San Francisco Inspector Harry Callahan (Clint Eastwood), became embroiled with the most challenging and controversial (''dirty'') cases of urban crime, often using tactics of police brutality and an attitude of take-no-prisoners that ignored criminals'' rights in order to restore victims'' rights and create public order. Callahan''s open contempt for normal Miranda law restrictions illustrated his belief that criminals must be stopped - by any means, since traditional law enforcement ( by the book ) tactics weren''t effective.
But that seems to be the core of these 7 groups differences. Your player friends are extroverted and display outcome independence ( which makes sense, considering one wouldn 8767 t care if they strike as much if they have a booty call on stand by ). I think you happen to have met 7 very special men who have an ability that many other men don 8767 t have. Something that most likely can 8767 t be taught and is inherent. Probably why they are actors to begin with, if I were to guess.
I think this is very significant and true. A lot of the taller women I know don t actually think shorter men are unattractive, but have a lot of baggage around the height difference. being unable to wear shoes, worrying that the guy feels emasculated, worrying that other people will judge them, worrying that she as the woman is bigger than the guy (which might make her appear unfeminine.)
It was actually really interesting. The study showed men consistently rated themselves too highly, went after women right out of their league, got knocked back. Women consistently rated themselves as less attractive than they are, went after men well within their league, fewer knock backs. However, the more attractive men did not mis-rate themselves and did not have this problem. Average men consistently tried to latch onto women they had no realistic chance with.
It might surprise some people here but my height is one of the few things I do like about how I look. It s also one of the few things people don t make mean comments about. That s not to say that I judge short people. I don t. I know many women in my social groups who openly state a preference for men taller than them and that sucks in my book but I m not going to abandon someone for their personal preferences.
To answer the first question, a bit of both. On the odd occasion I 8767 d find a second wind (or a guess a third or fourth) and send some messages, the only ones that got replies were from people who made it a requirement that you have a photo online so it would automatically add them to the start of the message. I remember a couple that were a fairly polite 8775 I think we 8767 re looking for different things 8776 and the like but it was mostly abuse centred around my appearance in the photographs. The one that springs to mind immediately and I 8767 ll self-censor it as I 8767 m not quite sure what the language rules are on here was along the lines of:
I was using your wording. Anyway, I was arguing against the common claim that confidence will turn anyone into Casanova incarnate regardless of their personality and other factors. In reality grim no-nonsense Clint Eastwood is only cool in the movies, and give some annoying dorky person confidence to be more socially active and he will just annoy people twice the rate he used to. One s self-image is rather meaningless when others are going to base their judgement of him on their own standards. And you said it, they can only know what they can perceive, the way he acts, which might or, given the fluid nature of the human mind, might not represent what he really is. But the whole concept of self is a interesting problem in it s own right.
I ve noticed that I feel a lot of this when I m going through depression. Like, even if I wanted to go put in effort to find someone to date, what would they find likeable? Or, of course X broke up with me, because I am all kinds of terrible. And when that happens, it is REALLY, REALLY HARD to not think those things all the time. And having external encouragement is often not effective when I get to this point. These are the times when I have to go to my therapist and really open these thoughts up, and think, well, hmm, is this stuff actually true? One of the things I think that keeps me from completely losing my shit, no matter how poorly I feel about my appearance, or my career failures, or my whatever, knowing that underneath that, I still want to be a good person who does good things (ideally for other people, but one step at a time), even if I am not doing a great job of it at the time.
Somewhat similar situation here. Also found out I was sensitive to gluten. Tried many different types of food plans and South Beach worked the best and made me feel like a new person except that I recently found out that I can t eat too much animal protein, so I ve modified it to be mostly vegetarian South Beach and that so far feels perfect. Like you said, you have to listen to your body and keep trying different things.
I''ve had the same experience as you''ve said. I don''t understand it. They keep ignoring everything I say to them about myself. They become fixated on the picture, even though my profile says I don''t think I''m wonderful and my hair looks awful. They don''t read it at all. I''m a whole person and this is wasting my time. I''m still at home on a Saturday night. If I''m that gorgeous (I don''t think I am), why aren''t they asking me out? I''ve tried to prompt them and get nowhere. Are they shy? Are they feeling inadequate? I can deal with that if the person is interested. If you can''t get past that to find out, then I give up.