Posted: 2017-12-06 03:45
I asked her if she would be okay with living together before the ceremony, and although she said yes, I can sense some resistance. After I asked her about this, she wondered if I was hesitant to spend the rest of my life with her. She asked me if my feelings would change before our final decision. Maybe she feels like I 8767 m testing the waters by proposing to move in together before marriage. I don 8767 t know.
He is very close with them and whilst we have always felt a very strong attraction to each other, we did not actually disclose how strongly we felt untill we both agreed that we wanted to commit to each other. Their initial reaction was disaproval, but it quickly cooled. We continued to become closer over the following month, then he suddenly stops visiting, wont commit to aranging to see me, however we still, chat on the net and nothing seemed to have changed in how much we care for and love each other. Then out of the blue he finishes it, after a few days he contacted me and tells me his Mum and sister were making threats to tell everyone in our small local community, and whilst neither he nor i really care what other people think, i care about what people say to my kids.
We spent the two weeks of his winter leave together, half here and half in chilly MN with his parents, then I visited him in the spring and he spent the 7 weeks of his summer leave here with me (his family flew in as he will not see them again until after his upcoming deployment). As things currently stand, we are quite serious about each other and talk daily when possible typically no problem unless he has any field trainings. He deploys in several weeks and I won 8767 t see him again until after. We get along well, we are both the introverts of our families, we communicate well and always listen to each other respectfully, and much to his surprise we have never even argued (I 8767 ve never been dramatic or a yeller to begin with). We plan together, coordinate, advise, support, and talk sense into each other when needed. I think he feels that, for the first time in a long time, I am not some girl who is with him for her own purposes I take his feelings/health/attitude/schedule/desires/needs into account. Heck, I get onto him about making sure to eat vegetables! We look out for each other.
I agree completely. When asked out on a date, I have always referred the guy to my dad first by my choice, not Dad 8767 s, haha! My dad is not controlling in the slightest, but he is a fairly good judge of character. I remember my older sister going through a series of jerks in her dating life before finding the right guy by referring a man to my dad first (even though he always says yes), it gives me a chance to have someone older and wiser than me do a brief character assessment so that he can advise me later on whether he sees some deep character flaw that the guy hides when he 8767 s around just me. It 8767 s not a control issue it 8767 s just a way of getting a second opinion to prevent future heartache.
You know, if you bite your tongue too many times and too often, you will bite it off. Does your husband realize how weary you are of the whole situation? You are, understandably, tired of feeling so helpless. After all, it is your home and your money, too -- and it doesn''t look like you have any voice, which is totally unfair to you. I know he wants to help his daughter, but he''s allowing her to run all over the two of you with no regard for your ideas or feelings. Clearly, they haven''t done such a bang-up job with their daughter, so you would think he''d be open to listening to you -- or at the very least seriously consider your wishes before deciding on a strategy all by himself. A strategy based solely on emotion and his desire to make the world all better for his baby girl!
Sort of new at this. Divorce finalized in September 7568. I was married for forty years to a man I was with since I was 66. I am 66 years old, and had a wonderful romance with a man who 8767 d been interested in me for many years, ever since I was in a movie he made (about poetry, of all things) Started out that he felt more than I did. Then we met for a most passionate weekend.. Fit ideally into both of our schedules. But now distance is becoming a problem. Hundreds of miles apart. And I crave physical closeness. No problem when we were together. At our age (he 8767 s older than me 67), we both have rather established lives so we can 8767 t see each other often even if we want to. I 8767 m just not sure. I really love this man, but he 8767 s giving into challenges of distance, and I 8767 m not the kind of woman who will involve herself with indiscriminate sex have to accept that I 8767 m not the only woman with whom he will have sex Not easy for me to accept this. NYC (him) and Michigan (me)
I know exactly how you feel, Ive been with my boyfriend for 5 n half years now. I live in New Zealand and he lives in USA, I only just meet him in August and he stayed for a month, It will be about a year till i see him again. It feels like my heart and life is empty without him here. It felt so right and perfect but now hes gone its almost like im grieving someone whos died..gaps in the house where his things were and in the bed are all empty now like he no longer exists. It hurts so much and i cry almost everyday at the moment even thou i still talk to him almost everyday its still like part of me is missing and its so hard to deal with.
I am 95 divorced and dating a 76 year old. He is financially independent and more mature than I am. I look 76, so when people see us, they don t see the age difference. His friends introduced us to each other, they accept and love me, and we all go out and have a great time. My parents, at this point, after a really bad 75 years of abusive marriage, that I had, just want me to be happy, so does my teenage son. My daughter, who is 75, gives me hell about it. She is more concerned about people next door, and who says what.
I 8767 m 98 and have always been told I look When I was 95, people told me I looked like I was in my early 75s. I never smoked. Partied very little. Stayed out of the sun. Yes, I am getting wrinkles NOW, but people still tell me I look like I 8767 m in my 85s. Good diet, lots of water, no sun, and retin-A, and NO SMOKING. And yes you can look years The reason I kept ending up with guys was because they thought I was their age, initially.
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I felt so crazy to think that it 8767 s all over. I could not believe it. I decided to go to him and see him personally and talk about why it had to end like that. Three weeks after we broke up on the phone, i decided to see him. I wanted to have a descent closure w/ him. I met him, tried to ask him to give me chance to support his dreams. I begged him, to keep me. He rejected me. He kept on telling me to move on and not expect that he will come back. It was o painful to accept his decision but i respected him. I was in the airport, going back to Manila. He was also there, i suddenly grabbed his cellphone. Browsed the messages, 8776 Gosh!!!!!
I met my girlfriend in a chat room but i live in England and she lives in the USA , She is beautiful smart and caring , We get along great ..(Thank God for webcams!!!) We have met twice and i am thinking of moving over there at the end of the year , We have been seeing each other a year and it is great so for all the doubters that think long distance does not work if you stay faithful and strong even through the hard times and you will have hard times then there is no reason at all it should not work 🙂.
I 8767 ve been keep in touch with an European guy. We get along very well, chat for hours almost every day since June this year , he even said he loves me Now is November and I asked him twice to plz send me his mailing address because his birthday is coming up He 8767 s answer was like this 8775 I don 8767 t want you to worry and spend money on me 8776 . I also know that he has fb, but It 8767 s private. I 8767 ve never ask him for his fb address, just for the mailing you think if he hiding something from me, or even worse lying? What should I do?
Been talking with someone for two years and then we finally meet up and everything was great. Now, I want to be closer and I thought he did too, so while I am wanting to move full speed ahead, he''s like lets take it slow. I don''t understand because I thought we wanted the same thing. Now I find myself wanting to get closer to him and he does not seem available for that. I wanna be patient, but I don''t wanna waste my time.
Been with a girl for 5 months, texting regularly. I wasn 8767 t understanding why she wouldn 8767 t text me back for ranging periods at a time lately. I admit I 8767 ve made the mistake a few times of over texting (nothing apparently needy, only question marks) and I was wondering how I could lay back and possibly spark her interest a little more. We are already at the point of seeing each other. I do not want to appear desperate, as I 8767 m not and I only want to make sure that this girl has me on her mind as much as I 8767 m on hers.
We have such a strong connection and communicate every single day! (Literally). After reading some comments I can 8767 t help but to feel somewhat spoiled or selfish with my feelings. He calls me everyday and some don 8767 t here from them for a whole week or days. Even when he was abroad in England (we even met in Paris during his stay), he would get on Facebook to call me because he had no cell service.
Hey Sara, it DOES sound like you 8767 re in a season of being caught between a rock and a hard place for sure. My main thought at this point is to hang in there until you see each other in two weeks. And at some point during that mini holiday to talk about this face to face. Explain to him what you 8767 ve written down here (it sounds like you guys are good communicators so that should be doable) and ask him how he 8767 s feeling (and the ups and downs). Tell him you 8767 re committed to making it work, and ask him what would help him to feel more connected right now. Then really make an effort to meet those minimum standards if you think you can (., a longer phone call mid week and a tele date on the weekend). If you think of it, come back and let us know how it 8767 s going.
For now, our solution is to stop talking to each other through the week and have quality catch up on the weekends to avoid the heavy reliance. However, I 8767 ve been thinking: is this one of those instances where 8775 if you love them, you have to let them go 8776 applies? Should I unshackle my boyfriend from the long distance chains and let him find someone who can give him what he needs? We are still very much in love with each other but we 8767 re also both quite I 8767 m 68 and he 8767 s 76. Please give me some advice on what actions I should take from now on.
I am currently in a LTR with my boyfriend of years. He recently took a job thousands of miles away, while I stayed to go to nursing school. Some times I find it really hard, especially because he works alot and doesn''t call every day. Sometimes I even get crazy ideas in my head that he might just never call me again or decided I''m not worth it. But when I do talk to him again, he reassures me that he isn''t going anywhere and he loves me. Even though there are thousands of miles between us, I know that he is my best friend and it will all be worth it when I finally get to see him. I wish everyone in a LTR good luck!
What I have to do..or try to do?Its better to write him letter with all my feelings or say him 8775 face to face 8776 ..?He doesnt know it..but for me isnt problem after my last year at school I can stay in France..but if we wont be together..I wont have reason to go here again and stay here,..that its possibility never beeing together And this I cannot imagine..I cannot imagine that he can have another girl..he is so perfcet for me..I know I say it after „only“one month with him..but I feel it..I never never never met better man than him